This blog is not about how to catch a man, lose a man or make your man happy. It is not about how to arrange a seasonal flower bouquet, where to get a facial or starting your own business on eBay. I don’t have any advice about how to fulfill your parents’ expectations, make an amazing three-course meal in 45 minutes or sleep around, but do so in style.
Nor will you find in here any insight about being single for the sake of being single, being in a relationship for the sake of not being single or getting married because all of your trusted role models show you that is what you are supposed to do at this point in your life. Forget everyone else’s timeline.
Admittedly this all started as a “Rah, rah for singledom!,” subtext: “Oh, God, this is great - why don’t people just stay single forever?” No, it wasn’t going to encourage you to run out and book your annual photo shoot at the Sears studio with you and your pet in matching holiday sweaters, but the subtext was celebrating singleness as a relief. That was about 10 years ago, as I was emerging from a relationship that had rotted long before I clipped myself loose.
Then the rah-ness settled a little and more balance crept into the picture.
I have not yet married. Over the last nine-plus years of being single - i,e. not in a serious relationship - for most of which I have been absolutely single-but-dating except for a few brief flickers, I started to hear something entirely different. This was not the fireworks and Main Street Parade through Singleville with my single friends and me as the majorettes as I had sometimes imagined. Instead, all of the excitement settled into a strong, steady and beautiful hum that has continued as a promise to all of us.
The promise is that being single where and when we are now is our exquisite opportunity to make the most of this time to become our most self-fulfilled. To become our most us.
That is what this blog is about.
There are many books and blogs about that, but the problem is most of them are written by people who are not single, are not our age or are not even women. Instead, this book is a peer expert’s guide to being happy now. Not when you get the boyfriend or the promotion or when you lose the 15 pounds.
It is about making the most of being single today and happy about it. About not being in a rush toward anything, but embracing everything with peace and a fair amount of sarcasm. About being happy with our life exactly how we make it. The bigger picture.
If you are not happy with your life as it is, then perhaps you will find some encouragement on here to change it. That’s your call. Enjoy.