INTRODUCTION

This blog is not about how to catch a man, lose a man or make your man happy.  It is not about how to arrange a seasonal flower bouquet, where to get a facial or starting your own business on eBay.  I don’t have any advice about how to fulfill your parents’ expectations, make an amazing three-course meal in 45 minutes or sleep around, but do so in style.

Nor will you find in here any insight about being single for the sake of being single, being in a relationship for the sake of not being single or getting married because all of your trusted role models show you that is what you are supposed to do at this point in your life.  Forget everyone else’s timeline.

Admittedly this all started as a “Rah, rah for singledom!,” subtext: “Oh, God, this is great - why don’t people just stay single forever?”  No, it wasn’t going to encourage you to run out and book your annual photo shoot at the Sears studio with you and your pet in matching holiday sweaters, but the subtext was celebrating singleness as a relief.  That was about 10 years ago, as I was emerging from a relationship that had rotted long before I clipped myself loose.

Then the rah-ness settled a little and more balance crept into the picture.

I have not yet married.  Over the last nine-plus years of being single - i,e. not in a serious relationship - for most of which I have been absolutely single-but-dating except for a few brief flickers, I started to hear something entirely different.  This was not the fireworks and Main Street Parade through Singleville with my single friends and me as the majorettes as I had sometimes imagined.  Instead, all of the excitement settled into a strong, steady and beautiful hum that has continued as a promise to all of us.

The promise is that being single where and when we are now is our exquisite opportunity to make the most of this time to become our most self-fulfilled.  To become our most us.

That is what this blog is about.

There are many books and blogs about that, but the problem is most of them are written by people who are not single, are not our age or are not even women.  Instead, this book is a peer expert’s guide to being happy now.  Not when you get the boyfriend or the promotion or when you lose the 15 pounds.

It is about making the most of being single today and happy about it.  About not being in a rush toward anything, but embracing everything with peace and a fair amount of sarcasm.  About being happy with our life exactly how we make it.  The bigger picture.

If you are not happy with your life as it is, then perhaps you will find some encouragement on here to change it.  That’s your call.  Enjoy.

Comments

[Mike Norris]

Great article!

[Paige]

Thank you very much, Mike! Please continue reading my blog and I hope you enjoy it.

[Thierry Levy]

Very well written. Your literary talent is obvious. Do you really want to waste it on finance?

[Paige]

Thank you, Thierry. You are very kind.

[Mazi Robinson]

I just wanted you to know how much I enjoyed the "Honey, I just want you to be happy" post. I thought it was excellent and spot on! As you know, I am a counselor now and my entire practice is made of up of women of all ages, but I see a number of single women in their late 20's to late 30's and dating/marriage is a frequent topic. I drives me crazy the way society badgers single women with such comments as "I just want you to be happy" or "How sad that she isn't married yet" because it leaves so many women feeling incomplete like something isn't right with their life when really they have a fabulous life. We all don't have to fit into the cookie-cutter-mold of what life is supposed to look like. I thought your closing thoughts were excellent. At any rate, just wanted to pass along my compliments and to say I can't wait for your book- I will definitely recommend it to my clients!

Take care,
Mazi

[adeyera]

Interesting and educative article.keep it up.
Hope to see you to see on mine blog.